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10 June 2011 @ 10:04 am
Ramblings, Courtesy, and a useful link  
Let me start with my useful link. Now that LJ has a new navigational header, I will need this link to get my "Journals Only" entry:

http://spicedogs.livejournal.com/friends?show=P&filter=0


katje0711  just posted about rude people who leave LJ and then never let anyone know that they are leaving. Friendships are not considered. Unless you drop dead, it is a considerate thing to let people know that you are leaving. I remember that when I was ill, so many of my f-list were grateful when my daughter kept up with my journal and let people know about me and my health. After all, LJ may have just randomly picked the name "friends." It could have picked "readers" or any other name. And, yes, the term "friends" sometimes can be misinterpreted. Yes, I know that some members of my f-list are not my friends, as we have not developed a relationship. But many are. So, when a friend just picks up and leaves and doesn't say good-bye, it is a slap in your face. It is saying, I don't give a shit about you.

I find, unfortunately, the same about people who just drop you off of their f-list. I would be nice to be told why. Frankly, I find those that just do it are just cowardly and cannot face you to say.... "you bore me." Now, my world doesn't shatter. It's just that rudeness rubs me the wrong way. I like the courtesy of telling me, "nothing against you, I just not interested in the same thing....."
 
 
 
~Lirpa~: Des Dear LJkatje0711 on June 10th, 2011 02:53 pm (UTC)
You could look at it the same way as co-workers. There are a lot of people that work at NHH. I don't know a lot of them. A lot I do. And there are a lot I work with from time to time, but don't know real well.

The other night I found out a guy from maintenance, who would sometimes work OT as a MHW with me, had committed suicide. This came as a great shock to everyone, as it usually does. I didn't know him very well, but it still saddened me.

It's really no different with LJ. If someone just vanishes without a word to the people on their flist, then you really wonder what's going on and, like that suicide, you never really have any answers.
madame sosostris: accessible!shantih on June 10th, 2011 06:28 pm (UTC)
I consider you a friend - I've had dinner with you, I've gone places with you, I've held your granddaughter. :) If you ever get dropped from my f-list, you can count on an LJ glitch being the cause.
~Lirpa~: Fangirlskatje0711 on June 11th, 2011 05:08 am (UTC)
Ditto!
Rubiksms_rubiks on June 10th, 2011 11:21 pm (UTC)
I didn't even know there was a way to seperate comms from friends on the friend page...it's why I don't 'follow' communities for the most part...Thank you for bringing this to my attention!

And I agree. It is tres rude.
what you're saying is you just didn'tbohemu on June 11th, 2011 12:19 am (UTC)
I completely agree with this. Every now and then I go through my flist and nudge people who haven't been active in a while. Sometimes they've moved onto other sites and we're friends there... but most of the time they've dropped off the face of the Earth. And then I go back and delete them after a while, leaving a comment stating such on the most recent entry I can see.
~Lirpa~: Des Dear LJkatje0711 on June 11th, 2011 05:09 am (UTC)
I did something similar recently. I PMed a handful of people that haven't updated in ages. About a week went by with no replies from some of them. I then left comments on their LJs. When they didn't reply after another week I removed them.
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~Lirpa~: NCIS: Abby and Gibbs Hugkatje0711 on June 12th, 2011 04:34 pm (UTC)
Not the same person. She's never been married. But I'm sorry to hear you had someone do something similar to you. That really stinks. {{HUGS}}