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03 June 2010 @ 11:32 pm
Am I taking it too personally?  
I think people who remove you from their f-list without prior warning are absolutely rude. What do you think?

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Any further questions? Ask the shrimp!txvoodoo on June 4th, 2010 03:34 am (UTC)
I used to worry about it, I don't anymore. Life's too short!
The Geriatric Fangirl: KW4.04 laura upsetcrazymaryt on June 4th, 2010 03:49 am (UTC)
It is very rude. But then how objective am I when I get all bent that someone took icons I didn't even make? ;-)

Seriously though I think it's rude as hell. If you are removing someone be adult enough to PM them why (she says as someone who's had this happen many times).
~Lirpa~: Ricardo: Whoa... wait a sec!katje0711 on June 4th, 2010 04:02 am (UTC)
Frankly I don't think you should have to tell anyone anything. I have someone who was very rude to me and I removed them from my flist. I sure as heck didn't owe them an explanation and certainly didn't need to open myself up to some ongoing argument. Besides, people can do what they want with their own journals. And I agree with txvoodoo life is way too short.
The Geriatric Fangirlcrazymaryt on June 4th, 2010 04:51 am (UTC)
But what if you didn't do anything and had been having conversations? Shouldn't you at least let the person know why you decide you no longer want to be "friends"?
~Lirpa~: Locke Whatever it takeskatje0711 on June 4th, 2010 04:53 am (UTC)
That would be nice, yeah. But then again, if someone was just going to remove me without an explanation, I guess I wouldn't want them as my friend, anyway. Because if they did that they aren't much of a friend.
Galileahgalileah_galile on June 4th, 2010 04:30 am (UTC)
I am of the mind that if they do that, you don;t wanna be thier friend anyway. I've had online and real life friends cut me off without explanation, and sometimes it is for the best. Their problem, not yours.
I am the Bad Wolf: (Doctor Who) 10 & Kittenbella_fox on June 4th, 2010 04:40 am (UTC)
I think it just depends on how friendly you were. If someone I hardly knew did it, I wouldn't mind. If someone I considered a friend did it, I'd be hurt.
frostiesarah: I drew on my eye brows for thisfrostiesarah on June 4th, 2010 04:53 am (UTC)
yeah I've been stung by the same bee myself, i try not to pay attention to who follows me anymore it's better that way.
Laura: stock: coffeepolvodestrella on June 4th, 2010 10:14 am (UTC)
It's rude yes. I always like to tell people when I remove them, I contact them personally (instead of making the general cut post), and tell them the exact reasons why I think our "friendship" is not working, and the exact reasons why I'm deleting them. I think we're humans and communications is one of the tools we have in our hands, so I like to use it in these situations. Also, if somebody asks me to don't remove them, I always reconsider it, even if it's a virtual world this doesn't mean we can get rid of people as if they were tissues.

So yes, basically what I'm trying to say is that I agree with you.

Edited at 2010-06-04 10:15 am (UTC)
Lesetchka: children will be soldlesetchka on June 4th, 2010 02:41 pm (UTC)
it's only rude if you and that person actually comment on each others LJs IMO. If it is someone you rarely interact with it isn't rude. I generally put up a post warning that I'm going to unfriend. I'd like to do that soon as I have duplicates between LJ and FB and many people who are dupes cross post. I'm not online the way I used to be so I'd love to just do a mass unfriending in one place of the dupes but people sometimes take it as a personal affront and make it into more than it really is :(
venckman: i am all earsvenckman on June 4th, 2010 03:23 pm (UTC)
Depends on the situation, and what your relationship with the person has been, I think, and also the circumstances leading to the "defriending." Every case is different. I'm in the "life's too short" category, either way.
What about second breakfast?kerrsmith2306 on June 4th, 2010 04:29 pm (UTC)
I'm only angry about it if it's someone I communicated a lot with and didn't have any kind of fall out with.
alabastardalabastard on June 4th, 2010 10:10 pm (UTC)
If I have some sort of connection with them, yes and I will usually ask why. If not, I don't care, but then again I shouldn't have them on my list ;-)